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Making Snow Angels

At a recent conference where I was keynoting, a woman introduced herself and told me her story. Suffice to say that Lorraine Berlin has a lot on her plate. She’s a mother and grandmother and someone who’s in the middle of a major transition. I don’t envy her current circumstances but I know this woman is headed for great things.

Here’s the story she told me after my speech about being “in the moment” and taking advantage of now. Imagine yourself in her situation as you read along (men, you’ll only have to make a small gear adjustment):

You’re facing a long day of giving presentations to prospective clients. Wanting to look your most credible, you’ve put on your best navy business suit and matching pumps. It’s December, but there’s no snow so the good shoes are a non issue.

But after lunch, despite the sun, it starts snowing. With each hour the flakes fall faster and thicker. By 4:30, as you swing into the daycare center parking lot to pick up your three-year old grandson Preston, you’re stepping into almost four inches of snow. As the two of you leave the building your grandson looks down, beams and says, “Gwanma, let’s lay down and make snow angels.”

Your heart is touched but you make an appeal, “Honey, grandma is wearing her best suit and heels. I can’t make snow angels dressed like this!” Preston looks at you with those huge appealing eyes and says, “Pweassseee?” You stand there, torn between the practical and the deliciously impulsive. Then a wistful feeling sweeps over you.

Just a few months ago, your father passed away and the loss is still raw. You look at Preston and say, “Why NOT?” So, power suit, pumps and all, right in front of the daycare school you and your giggling grandson make snow angels.

You invite other adults and kids to join in but nobody does. Some look, some smile, some just walk away while the two of you laugh and play in the snow. You know in your heart that even your best business suit and shoes can be cleaned, repaired, or replaced, but moments like this, when lost, can never be retrieved.

Simple Action: Life is short and we need to take immediate action when opportunities present themselves for the taking or memories are there for the making.

NOTE: I wish you many snow angels; the one above is mine. Thank you, Lorraine, for being a life enricher.

Lose the New Year’s Resolutions

Lose weight. Quit smoking. Get back in shape. Eat less. Read more. Save money. Manage time better. Be a better spouse, parent, family member, friend, worker, and so on. Any of these look familiar? Maybe they’ve been on your resolution list, maybe more than once.

The word resolution is defined as “a firm decision to do or not do something.” You know the drill: make a list, check it twice, stand back and hope for a miracle. Try to transform, mess up, try again, try harder, give up. That’s pretty much how it goes for many of us. Others long ago gave up on the idea entirely.

So if you have a list of resolutions are they realistic? When you look at your list do you feel a wave of deja vu all over again? How many of these items were on last year’s list, and maybe the year before, or the year before that? For how long did you stick to your resolutions last year, and if the honeymoon was brief, what makes you think you’ll be successful this time around?

Sorry to rain on your parade, but maybe it’s time to try another tack. I just happen to have one. This approach is simple, practical, and effective. Instead of hoping for that mythical massive makeover, all you have to do is get focused.

Here’s what I mean. Pick one self-development behavior you know would enrich your life. Work on it for the entire year of 2010 and you’ll end up with a newly ingrained habit that will stay with you.

That’s it. That’s all you have to do. Of course, there will be the usual trial and error, attempt and failure, but here’s good news. There’s always tomorrow. Give yourself a year of “do overs” and you’ve internalized a new habit—for good! It’s ten times more effective than the traditional way.

I began this remarkable practice in 1997. It’s my 365-Day Personal Project. As a result of this focused approach, I am more patient, less stressed, more inclined to use my sense of humor in pressure situations, and far more self-aware.

Here was my indelible insight about this simple but life-altering practice: for once, time is on your side. Interested? You can read more details here. It’s the best seasonal advice I could give you.

Simple Action: Rather than frustrating yourself with sweeping changes, pick one self-development behavior you’d like to work on. Get started. Don’t stop. You’ll be glad you did.

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